You're doing everything right.
So why do you still feel off?
These pieces come from patterns I meet over and over in my work: women who eat well, exercise, did everything they were told, and whose bloodwork still comes back "normal" while their bodies clearly aren't: tired, bloated, cycles askew. "In range" isn't the same as well. None of it is written about you in particular. But when something here sounds familiar, it usually means there's a reason no one has gone looking for, and that it's worth a closer look.
You're not overweight, so no one checked your blood sugar
Slim, active, eating well, and still not ovulating properly. Blood sugar is one of the first things skipped in women who don't look like they need it checked.
Preparing for a healthy pregnancy: the part the checklist skips
Preparing for pregnancy is more than folic acid. Why the two to three months before you conceive matter, and which tests are worth asking for beyond the basics.
Your blood tests came back normal, but one number was never checked
You feel tired, foggy, or you're trying for a baby, and you've been told everything looks normal. There's a fair chance one quiet marker was never on the panel.
The cold plunge your nervous system can't afford right now
You started cold showers for calm and resilience, but you feel more wired, not less. Whether your system has room for it matters more than willpower.
What your 3pm crash is telling you about your 8am coffee
Your morning coffee feels essential. The afternoon wall, the second cup and the restless night are one pattern, and giving it up is rarely the answer.
Why beans and lentils leave you bloated
You added beans and lentils for fibre, then spent the afternoon bloated and uncomfortable. The bloating tells you something about your gut, not about beans.
Why your virtuous breakfast stalls your whole morning
You start the day with a cold green smoothie and feel bright, then the morning turns heavy. The timing might not suit your body, and nor might the coffee beside it.
Your healthy evening square and your restless night
Your nightly square of good dark chocolate might be the gentlest thing keeping your tired brain switched on when it's trying to wind down.
Skipping breakfast is a tax your body can't always afford
Pushing your first meal to midday is meant to be good for everyone. But if you feel wired then flat, anxious and off-cycle, your body might be paying for it elsewhere.
Why 'good bacteria' is making your bloating worse
Kombucha, kefir, sauerkraut and kimchi are wonderful for many guts. But if yours feels more bloated the more you add, it may be asking for less, not more.
Not all sugar is dessert, but your body can't tell yet
You reach for fruit because it feels right, then an hour later you're shaky and foggy. It's the speed, not the fruit, and there's a longer reason to fix it than the fog.
Eating more protein and absorbing less of it
You upped your protein because everyone said to, but meals sit heavy and you still feel tired. Eating it and absorbing it are not the same thing.
The right mineral in the wrong form is still the wrong move
You tried magnesium for sleep or cramps and it did nothing, or it upset your gut. The form matters more than the label, and never more than before pregnancy.
A letter every Sunday.
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